How Do I Love People That Are Hard To Love? | Everyday Answers

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    ANNOUNCER: THE FOLLOWING PROGRAM IS PAID FOR BY
    THE FRIENDS AND PARTNERS OF JOYCE MEYER MINISTRIES.
    GINGER: GOD TELLS US THAT WE ARE TO LOVE ALL PEOPLE, EXCEPT
    OF COURSE THOSE PEOPLE WHO ARE JUST OBVIOUSLY TOO DIFFICULT
    AND ARE PURPOSELY ANNOYING.
    WELL, OKAY, HE DIDN'T REALLY SAY THAT LAST PART.
    I ADDED THAT JUST FOR MY OWN WELL-BEING.
    BUT TODAY, DON'T WORRY, WE HAVE ANSWERS.
    JOYCE IS GOING TO HELP US TO LOVE THOSE DIFFICULT PEOPLE.
    GINGER: AS WE WALK THROUGH EACH NEW DAY, WE ALL HAVE
    QUESTIONS.
    THEY'RE JUST PART OF LIFE.
    BUT DID YOU KNOW THERE ARE ANSWERS FOR YOU?
    GOD SAYS WHEN WE LOOK, WE'LL FIND HIM.
    HE'S NOT TRYING TO HIDE ANYTHING.
    SO, TOGETHER, WE ARE DISCOVERING LIFE'S EVERYDAY ANSWERS.
    GINGER: HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT LIFE WOULD BE SO MUCH EASIER IF
    WE DIDN'T HAVE TO LOVE EVERYONE?
    WELL, I THINK THAT IS WHAT IS BEHIND THIS QUESTION FROM
    TWITTER.
    IT'S REALLY AN INTERESTING QUESTION.
    "DOESN'T PRAYING FOR OUR ENEMIES (THE UNLOVELY) TAKE TIME AWAY
    FROM PRAYING FOR THE PEOPLE I LOVE (THE LOVELIES!)?"
    WELL, THAT IS A REALLY INTERESTING WAY TO PUT THAT
    QUESTION, AND THERE IS NO DENYING THAT GOD WANTS US
    TO LOVE EVERYONE.
    AND BY DOING SO, WE EXPERIENCE PERSONALLY A GREAT BENEFIT.
    JOYCE EXPLAINS TODAY AS SHE ANSWERS THE QUESTION, "HOW DO
    I LOVE PEOPLE WHO ARE HARD TO LOVE?"
    JOYCE: THE THINGS THAT GOD TELLS US TO DO, EVERY SINGLE ONE
    OF THEM ARE SOMETHING FOR OUR BENEFIT.
    COME ON NOW.
    EVERY SINGLE THING THAT GOD TELLS US TO DO, HE'S ONLY--HE'S
    NOT TRYING TO MAKE IT HARD ON US.
    HE'S NOT TRYING TO GIVE US IMPOSSIBLE THINGS TO DO.
    WHICH MOST PEOPLE WOULD TELL YOU THAT ONE OF THE HARDEST THINGS
    THAT THEY EVER HAVE TO DO IS FORGIVE SOMEBODY WHO REALLY
    HURT THEM REALLY BAD, AMEN?
    [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
    JOYCE: AND WE JUST THINK IT'S NOT FAIR, AND HOW COULD GOD ASK
    US TO DO THAT, AND ON, AND ON, AND ON.
    BUT IT'S REALLY--HE'S REALLY TRYING TO HELP US BY DOING THAT.
    AND SO, SINCE WE HAVE ALL THESE PEOPLE IN THE WORLD AND WE'VE
    ALREADY ESTABLISHED THAT THEY'RE NOT ALL GONNA BE NICE TO US,
    AND THEN WE SEE THAT THERE'S A COMMAND THAT WE HAVE TO
    LOVE THEM.
    NOW, I WISH THAT THE BIBLE SAID, "LOVE THE PEOPLE THAT ARE
    LOVABLE."
    [AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
    JOYCE: BUT IT DOESN'T.
    WE HAVE TO SOMEHOW LEARN HOW TO LOVE PEOPLE THAT ARE VERY
    DIFFICULT TO LOVE.
    SO, HOW MANY OF YOU ARE IN TONIGHT AND YOU WANNA GO ON
    WITH THIS?
    ALL RIGHT, SO.
    [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
    JOYCE: I HAVE DECIDED THAT I'M ACTUALLY REALLY GONNA MAKE
    AN EFFORT TO DO WHAT JESUS SAID TO DO IN 1 CORINTHIANS 13:5,
    AND THAT IS, "LOVE ALWAYS AND IS EVER READY TO BELIEVE THE BEST
    OF EVERY PERSON."
    OKAY, I GUESS I'LL HAVE TO DO THAT AGAIN.
    [AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
    JOYCE: 'CAUSE I CAN TELL WHEN YOU GET IT AND WHEN YOU DON'T.
    NOW, SEE, I CAN BELIEVE, WELL, YOU JUST DID THAT
    ON PURPOSE, OR I CAN BELIEVE MAYBE YOU MUST BE HAVING
    A BAD DAY.
    I DOUBT YOU EVEN REALIZED HOW THAT SOUNDED.
    I REALLY DON'T BELIEVE YOU MEANT TO HURT ME.
    MAYBE SOMETHING'S GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE AND IT REALLY HAS
    NOTHING TO DO WITH ME.
    NOW, HERE AGAIN, I'M NOT SAYING THAT WE JUST LET PEOPLE ABUSE
    US, AND THERE'S CERTAINLY A TIME TO CONFRONT PEOPLE, AND I'M
    ALL OVER THAT.
    YOU KNOW, I DON'T HAVE ANY PROBLEM WITH CONFRONTATION.
    THAT IS NOT AN ISSUE FOR ME.
    I CAN MAYBE USE A LITTLE BIT OF THE OTHER SIDE SOMETIMES.
    BUT IT'S AMAZING HOW WE ARE RELIEVED FROM HAVING TO WASTE
    A DAY BEING ANGRY AT SOMEBODY IF WE'LL JUST IMMEDIATELY SAY,
    "LORD, HELP ME BELIEVE THE BEST."
    THAT'S POINT NUMBER ONE.
    HELP ME BELIEVE THE BEST.
    NOW, A FEW OPENING SCRIPTURES.
    MATTHEW 5:46-47 SAYS, "IF WE ONLY LOVE THOSE WHO LOVE US
    BACK," THAT'S NOTHING.
    IT SAYS, "EVEN THE GENTILES DO THAT."
    THEY WERE THE UNBELIEVERS THEN, SO YOU KNOW, IT DOESN'T TAKE
    THE POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT IN OUR LIVES, WHICH WE HAVE
    AS BELIEVERS.
    WE DON'T NEED THAT POWER TO JUST LOVE PEOPLE THAT ARE NICE TO US.
    OKAY, I GOT ONE PERSON OVER THERE THAT LIKES THIS.
    [AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
    JOYCE: WE HAVE TO GET ALL THE "I CAN'T" THINKING OUT
    OF OUR HEAD.
    IT'S NOT "I CAN'T LOVE YOU."
    IF JESUS TOLD ME TO LOVE YOU, THEN I CAN LOVE YOU.
    I MAY NOT KNOW HOW TO DO IT YET, BUT I HAVE THE POWER AND YOU
    HAVE THE POWER OF THE HOLY SPIRIT
    TO DO EVERYTHING THAT GOD HAS COMMANDED YOU TO DO.
    YOU CAN DO IT.
    [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
    JOYCE: AND FURTHERMORE, WE ARE HERE TO REPRESENT GOD.
    THAT'S THE WHOLE REASON WHY HE LEFT US HERE.
    IF GOD DIDN'T HAVE A PURPOSE FOR US HERE, AFTER WE'RE BORN AGAIN,
    HE WOULD JUST BEAM US UP AND WE COULD MISS THE WHOLE MESS.
    [AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
    JOYCE: BUT WE'RE HERE BECAUSE THE BIBLE SAYS THAT WE ARE GOD'S
    PERSONAL REPRESENTATIVES.
    NOW, GET THIS.
    THE AMPLIFIED SAYS, "HE IS MAKING HIS APPEAL TO THE WORLD
    THROUGH US."
    SO, PEOPLE ARE SUPPOSED TO LOOK AT US AND SEE HOW GOD IS.
    AND THAT'S SUPPOSED TO MAKE THEM THIRSTY, WE'RE SALT, AND IT'S
    SUPPOSED TO PIERCE THE DARKNESS IN THEIR LIFE, WE ARE LIGHT.
    AND SO, THE BIBLE SAYS IN MATTHEW THAT WHEN WE LOVE OUR
    ENEMIES AND THOSE WHO ARE MEAN TO US AND ABUSIVE TO US, THAT WE
    DO IT TO SHOW THAT WE ARE LIKE OUR FATHER IN HEAVEN.
    [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
    JOYCE: NOW, HERE'S A GREAT SCRIPTURE.
    IF YOU THINK THAT YOU CANNOT LOVE PEOPLE, "I JUST CANNOT LOVE
    THEM THE WAY THEY ARE.
    NO, I MEAN, I JUST CAN'T.
    GOD, YOU GOTTA CHANGE THEM IF YOU WANT ME TO LOVE THEM."
    [AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
    JOYCE: ONE MORE SCRIPTURE, THEN I'M GOING TO POINT TWO.
    ROMANS 5:8, "BUT GOD SHOWS AND CLEARLY PROVES HIS
    [OWN] LOVE FOR US BY THE FACT THAT WHILE WE WERE STILL
    SINNERS, CHRIST DIED FOR US."
    [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
    JOYCE: HOW MANY OF YOU ARE GLAD THAT IT DOESN'T SAY,
    "ONCE WE GOT OURSELVES ALL CLEANED UP"?
    [AUDIENCE CHEERING]
    JOYCE: OH MY GOSH, THE THING THAT IS SO INVITING ABOUT JESUS
    IS I CAN STAND HERE TONIGHT AND TELL PEOPLE, NO MATTER WHERE
    YOU'RE AT IN LIFE, NO MATTER WHAT YOU'VE DONE, NO MATTER
    HOW DEEP OF A PIT YOU'RE IN, GOD WILL TAKE YOU JUST THE WAY
    YOU ARE.
    HE LOVES YOU JUST THE WAY YOU ARE.
    [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
    JOYCE: NOW, HE DOESN'T WANT US TO STAY THAT WAY.
    GOD LOVES US TOO MUCH TO LET US STAY THAT WAY AND WE NEED
    TO CHANGE.
    AND YES, THERE ARE PEOPLE IN OUR LIVES THAT NEED TO CHANGE, BUT
    SADLY, MANY OF THEM ARE NEVER GOING TO IF ALL WE DO IS BUILD
    WALLS, AND SHUT THEM OUT, AND STAY ANGRY AT 'EM,
    AND GET BITTER AND RESENTFUL.
    YOU KNOW, WE TALK ABOUT SACRIFICE, AND SOME OF US JUST
    NEED TO SACRIFICE A LITTLE BIT OF OUR PERSONAL COMFORT MAYBE
    JUST TO BE AROUND SOMEBODY THAT MAYBE IS NOT ALL THAT EASY
    TO BE AROUND WITH.
    [AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
    JOYCE: I MEAN, I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU, I CAN GET PRETTY
    ADDICTED TO MY CREATURE COMFORTS.
    OKAY, SO NOW I GOT A QUESTION TO PUT OUT TO YOU, 'CAUSE I--YOU
    KNOW, GOD'S ASKING ME THIS, SO I'LL JUST SHARE IT WITH YOU.
    [AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
    JOYCE: ARE THE PEOPLE THAT YOU'RE HAVING A HARD TIME
    LOVING, ARE THEY REALLY THAT BAD OR ARE YOU JUST MAYBE A LITTLE
    TOO PICKY?
    [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
    JOYCE: IF WE WANNA LOVE PEOPLE THAT ARE DIFFICULT TO
    LOVE, THE FIRST THING WE NEED TO DO IS PRAY FOR OURSELVES TO HAVE
    A PROPER ATTITUDE BEFORE WE EVER BOTHER TO PRAY FOR THEM
    TO CHANGE.
    AND I'M SERIOUS.
    I LEARNED A LONG TIME AGO, I DO NOT GO TO GOD AND PRAY FOR MY
    HUSBAND TO CHANGE WITHOUT APPROACHING THE THRONE IN THIS
    FASHION: "LORD, THIS THING IS REALLY HARD FOR ME,
    AND OBVIOUSLY I WOULD LIKE YOU TO WORK IN DAVE'S LIFE.
    HI, BABY."
    [AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
    JOYCE: HE USUALLY SITS DOWN THERE.
    HE'S UP HERE TONIGHT 'CAUSE HE'S GOT A COUGH, AND IF HE STARTED
    COUGHING HE WANTED TO ESCAPE QUICKLY.
    HOWEVER, HE'S NOW CLOSER TO ME, SO IF I SAY MUCH, HE CAN COME UP
    HERE AND TAKE THE MICROPHONE.
    [AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
    JOYCE: BUT FIRST, I WILL PRAY, "NOW, LORD, MAYBE I'M NOT
    EVEN SEEING THIS RIGHT.
    I MAY BE THE ONE WITH THE PROBLEM, AND SO FIRST
    OF ALL, DEAL WITH ME."
    DON'T EVER GO TO GOD IN PRAYER ABOUT SOMEBODY ELSE'S FAULTS IF
    YOU DON'T GO WITH A HUMBLE ATTITUDE, AMEN?
    [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
    JOYCE: THAT'S JUST NOT A VERY SAFE THING TO DO, BECAUSE JUST
    BECAUSE WE THINK WE KNOW WHAT'S WRONG WITH SOMEBODY DOESN'T MEAN
    THAT WE DO, AMEN?
    WHEW, THIS IS BETTER THAN I THOUGHT IT MIGHT BE.
    [AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
    JOYCE: PRAY THAT WE WILL SEE OUR OWN FAULTS, BECAUSE IF WE
    DO, IT WILL MAKE IT MUCH EASIER TO BE PATIENT WITH
    THE WEAKNESSES OF OTHERS.
    BECAUSE WHEN WE SEE OUR OWN FAULTS, IT BRINGS A DEGREE
    OF HUMILITY INTO OUR LIVES.
    MATTHEW 7:3, "WHY DO YOU STARE FROM WITHOUT AT THE VERY
    SMALL PARTICLE THAT'S IN YOUR BROTHER'S EYE."
    LET ME GIVE IT TO YOU, I THINK IT'S THE LIVING BIBLE, "WHY DO
    YOU STARE FROM WITHOUT AT THE TOOTHPICK THAT'S IN YOUR
    BROTHER'S EYE BUT YOU DON'T BECOME AWARE OF THE TELEPHONE
    POLE THAT'S IN YOUR EYE?"
    [AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
    JOYCE: AND LISTEN, JUST IMAGINE IF THERE WERE TWO PEOPLE
    UP HERE AND ONE HAD A TOOTHPICK STICKING OUT OF HIS EYE AND
    ANOTHER ONE HAD A TELEPHONE POLE STICKING OUT OF HIS EYE.
    AND THE GUY WITH THE TELEPHONE POLE STICKING OUT OF HIS EYE IS
    TRYING TO CORRECT THE GUY WITH THE TOOTHPICK IN HIS EYE.
    [AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
    JOYCE: AND ACTUALLY, IF YOU GO AND READ ALL THOSE SCRIPTURES
    IN MATTHEW 7, I MEAN, IT GETS REALLY GOOD BECAUSE HE SAID, "GO
    FIRST AND GET THE TELEPHONE POLE OUT OF YOUR OWN EYE, THEN YOU
    WILL SEE CLEARLY HOW TO TAKE THE TOOTHPICK OUT OF YOUR
    BROTHER'S EYE."
    [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
    JOYCE: SEE, WE REALLY--WE DON'T KNOW HOW TO HELP PEOPLE
    PROPERLY.
    THERE'S NO COMPASSION, NO GENTLENESS IF WE'VE GOT A BIGGER
    MESS IN OUR LIFE THAN THEY DO, BUT WE'RE BLIND TO OUR FAULTS
    AND ONLY SEE THEIRS.
    MAYBE THERE'S JUST SOMEBODY LISTENING IN HERE OR BY TV,
    MAYBE YOU COULD JUST THINK ABOUT THIS A LITTLE BIT.
    MAYBE YOU COULD JUST THINK ABOUT ALL THOSE PEOPLE YOU DON'T LIKE
    AND YOU COULD JUST MAYBE ASK YOURSELF, "IS IT EVEN REMOTELY
    POSSIBLE?"
    [AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
    JOYCE: I MEAN, I KNOW IT WOULD BE VERY REMOTE, BUT IS IT
    EVEN REMOTELY POSSIBLE THAT I COULD HAVE MORE PROBLEMS
    THAN THEY DO?
    HMM, WELL, I'LL JUST LEAVE THAT WITH YOU.
    [AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
    JOYCE: NOW YOU'LL LIKE THIS ONE BETTER, NUMBER THREE.
    PRAY FOR THE PERSON WHO'S BEING DIFFICULT TO GET ALONG WITH.
    YES, THANK YOU.
    BUT DON'T PRAY FOR THEM TO CHANGE JUST TO MAKE IT EASIER
    FOR YOU.
    BUT PRAY FOR THEM TO BE ALL THAT GOD WANTS THEM TO BE.
    PRAY FOR THE PERSON WITH HUMILITY, REALIZING BUT FOR
    THE GRACE OF GOD THERE GO I.
    ROMANS 12:3, "FOR BY THE GRACE--"
    I LOVE WHAT PAUL--HOW PAUL APPROACHES THIS.
    HE'S GETTING READY TO CORRECT THE ROMANS AND HE SAYS,
    "BY THE GRACE (OF GOD) I WARN EVERYONE AMONG YOU
    NOT TO THINK MORE HIGHLY OF YOURSELF THAN YOU OUGHT TO."
    SO, HE DIDN'T JUST GO IN THERE AND START TELLING THEM OFF.
    HE SAID, "LOOK, I'M ONLY COMING TO YOU AND DARING TO TELL YOU
    THIS BECAUSE GOD HAS GIVEN ME A GRACE TO DO THIS.
    AND SO, I'M TELLING YOU, DON'T THINK MORE HIGHLY OF YOURSELF
    THAN YOU OUGHT TO.
    DON'T HAVE AN EXAGGERATED OPINION OF YOUR OWN IMPORTANCE."
    NOW, YOU KNOW, HONESTLY AND TRULY, SOMETIMES BEING
    JUDGMENTAL OF OTHER PEOPLE, IT IS A MECHANISM THAT WE COME UP
    WITH TO NOT HAVE TO DEAL WITH OUR OWN PROBLEMS.
    AS LONG AS I STAY BUSY THINKING ABOUT WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU,
    I DON'T HAVE TO DEAL WITH WHAT MIGHT BE GOING ON IN MY
    OWN LIFE.
    [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
    JOYCE: SO, I'VE KINDA FOUND OUT IN MY MANY YEARS OF
    EXPERIENCE OF DOING A WHOLE BUNCH OF STUFF WRONG AND
    HOPEFULLY LEARNING TO DO A LOT OF IT RIGHT NOW THAT I REALLY
    NEED TO SPEND LESS TIME ON OTHER PEOPLE AND MORE TIME ON ME.
    [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
    JOYCE: AMEN?
    I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT NOT CONFRONTING PEOPLE'S BAD
    BEHAVIOR, BUT WHAT I AM TALKING ABOUT IS NOT THEN BUILDING WALLS
    AROUND YOURSELF AND KEEPING THEM OUT OF YOUR LIFE, THINKING
    YOU'RE PROTECTING YOURSELF FROM EVER GETTING HURT AGAIN.
    GOTTA KEEP IN MIND THAT IF YOU WALL PEOPLE OUT,
    YOU WALL YOURSELF IN.
    JOYCE: BE READY TO FORGIVE 'EM OFTEN.
    SEVEN TIMES?
    I CAN DO SEVEN, LORD.
    [AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
    JOYCE: NO PETER, JUST OVER, AND OVER, AND OVER, AND OVER,
    AND OVER.
    "FORGIVING ONE ANOTHER."
    EPHESIANS 4:32 SAYS, "FORGIVING ONE ANOTHER [READILY
    AND FREELY], AS GOD IN CHRIST HAS FORGIVEN YOU."
    YOU WILL NEVER AND I WILL NEVER HAVE TO FORGIVE SOMEBODY ELSE
    FOR MORE THAN JESUS HAS HAD TO FORGIVE ME FOR.
    EVERY DAY, EVERY DAY, EVERY DAY, EVERY DAY, EVERY DAY.
    ALL RIGHT, NUMBER FIVE, BE WILLING TO COVER THEIR SIN.
    1 PETER 4:8, "ABOVE ALL THINGS HAVE INTENSE AND UNFAILING LOVE
    FOR ONE ANOTHER, FOR LOVE COVERS A MULTITUDE OF SINS [FORGIVES
    AND DISREGARDS THE OFFENSES OF OTHERS]."
    WHAT DOES IT MEAN TO COVER SOMEBODY'S SIN?
    WELL, I BELIEVE IT MEANS DON'T EXPOSE THEIR FAULTS TO
    SOMEBODY ELSE.
    IF MY HUSBAND WOULD NOT HAVE APPLIED THESE PRINCIPLES
    THE FIRST THREE TO FIVE YEARS OF OUR MARRIAGE, I WOULD NOT BE
    STANDING HERE TONIGHT SHARING THIS MESSAGE WITH YOU.
    [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
    JOYCE: BECAUSE I CAN PROMISE YOU, I WAS A PERSON THAT WAS
    DIFFICULT TO LOVE, BUT I WASN'T DOING IT ON PURPOSE.
    I DIDN'T ACT THE WAY THAT I DID ON PURPOSE.
    PEOPLE WOULD SAY TO ME, "WHY DO YOU ACT THE WAY YOU DO?"
    AND I'D THINK, "WHAT ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT?
    ACT WHAT WAY?" I JUST HAD ALL KINDS
    OF PROBLEMS ON THE INSIDE OF ME AND I NEEDED SOMEBODY TO SHOW
    ME JESUS.
    I NEEDED SOMEBODY--ONE OF THE THINGS THAT--YOU KNOW, MAKE
    PEOPLE JEALOUS OF WHAT YOU HAVE WITH GOD.
    I GOT TO THE POINT WHERE I WAS JEALOUS OF DAVE'S PEACE.
    IT WAS LIKE HE HAD SO MUCH PEACE, I THOUGHT, "I WANT THAT."
    IF YOU CAN HAVE THAT, I WANT THAT.
    AND HE'D STAY HAPPY WHEN I'D GET MAD AT HIM.
    HE'D JUST STAY HAPPY.
    [AUDIENCE LAUGHING]
    JOYCE: AND THAT WOULD JUST EAT ME UP THAT I COULDN'T MAKE
    HIM UNHAPPY LIKE I WAS UNHAPPY.
    AND SO, THEN I FINALLY THOUGHT, "I WANT THAT HAPPINESS.
    I WANT THAT KIND OF LIFE WHERE NO MATTER WHAT PEOPLE DO,
    I CAN STILL ENJOY MY DAY AND BE HAPPY."
    [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
    JOYCE: SEE, HERE'S THE THING, WE CAN'T PREACH EVERYBODY INTO
    A CHANGE, BUT WE CAN SHOW THEM BY EXAMPLE.
    [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
    JOYCE: WE CAN SHOW THEM BY EXAMPLE.
    TREAT OTHER PEOPLE THE WAY YOU WANNA BE TREATED, NOT THE WAY
    THEY TREAT YOU.
    [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
    JOYCE: YOU KNOW WHY?
    BECAUSE WE REAP WHAT WE SOW.
    AND I HEARD ONE MAN SAY MANY YEARS AGO, AND I THINK
    IT'S A GOOD POINT.
    HE SAID, "I HAVE TO ASK MYSELF WHEN SOMEBODY OFFENDS ME, ARE
    THEY SOWING OR AM I REAPING?"
    [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
    JOYCE: BECAUSE IN ALL HONESTY, HOW MANY TIMES, MAYBE
    BACK HERE IN THE PAST AND WE'VE FORGOTTEN IT, 'CAUSE WE'RE
    PRETTY QUICK AT FORGETTING WHAT WE DO WRONG.
    MAYBE WE HAVE DONE THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER TO
    OTHER PEOPLE THAT SOMEBODY ELSE NOW IS DOING TO US.
    SO, WHEN I HAVE A HARD TIME GETTING ALONG WITH PEOPLE, IS IT
    BECAUSE THEY'RE HARD TO GET ALONG WITH OR IS IT BECAUSE I'M
    A LITTLE TOO PICKY?
    WHEN SOMEBODY MISTREATS ME, ARE THEY SOWING OR AM I REAPING?
    I WANNA GO OVER--I'M JUST GONNA READ THIS LIST OF THESE
    NINE POINTS.
    NUMBER ONE, BELIEVE THE BEST.
    NUMBER TWO, PRAY FOR YOURSELF.
    NUMBER THREE, PRAY FOR THEM TO BE ALL THAT GOD WANTS 'EM TO BE.
    NUMBER FOUR, BE READY TO FORGIVE PEOPLE.
    NUMBER FOUR, BE READY TO FORGIVE.
    NUMBER FIVE, COVER THEIR SIN, DON'T GOSSIP.
    NUMBER SIX, BLESS AND DO NOT CURSE THEM.
    NUMBER SEVEN, HELP THEM IF THEY NEED HELP.
    NUMBER EIGHT, DON'T GLOAT WHEN THEY HAVE TROUBLE.
    AND NUMBER NINE, TREAT PEOPLE THE WAY YOU WANT TO BE TREATED,
    NOT THE WAY THEY HAVE TREATED YOU, AMEN.
    [AUDIENCE APPLAUDING]
    JOYCE: WELL, I PRAY--I PRAY, LORD, THAT ANYBODY HERE THAT--I
    PRAY THAT EVERYBODY HERE THAT THIS HELPS, AND THAT WHEN PEOPLE
    WATCH THIS ON TELEVISION, IT'S GONNA HELP.
    AND I PRAY A LOT OF PEOPLE WILL LET GO OF ANGER AND BITTERNESS,
    AND BE A SHINING, BRIGHT LIGHT FOR PEOPLE WHO NEED HELP.
    WE ASK IT IN JESUS'S NAME.
    GINGER: JOYCE IS GOING TO ANSWER TODAY'S "HELP ME"
    QUESTION COMING UP, AND IT IS AN IMPORTANT AND A TRAGIC ONE.
    BUT FIRST, LET ME TELL YOU ABOUT A RESOURCE THAT WILL HELP YOU
    LEARN TO LOVE EVERYONE.
    THIS IS A BRAND NEW TEACHING FROM JOYCE CALLED, "HOW TO LOVE
    PEOPLE THAT ARE HARD TO LOVE."
    YOU CAN GET IT AS A DIGITAL DOWNLOAD OR A SINGLE CD,
    AND TODAY IT IS ABSOLUTELY FREE.
    NOW, YOU MAY WONDER WHY WE'RE DOING THIS.
    WHY WOULD WE OFFER IT FOR FREE?
    IT'S BECAUSE WE KNOW THAT GETTING GOD'S WORD INTO YOUR
    LIFE IS GOING TO CHANGE YOUR LIFE AND ALL THOSE PEOPLE AROUND
    YOU, SO WE JUST WANT TO MAKE IT AVAILABLE TO YOU.
    ALL YOU NEED TO DO IS TO CONTACT US RIGHT NOW.
    USE THE WEBSITE, JOYCEMEYER.ORG, CALL THAT NUMBER ON YOUR SCREEN.
    IT'S FREE, WHAT DO YOU HAVE TO LOSE?
    AND YOU MIGHT OPEN UP YOUR ENTIRE LIFE TO A LOVE YOU
    NEVER KNEW EXISTED.
    WELL, WE LOVE YOU AND THAT'S WHY WE LOVE TO LISTEN TO YOUR VOICE.
    LET'S CHECK IT OUT.
    [MUSIC]
    GINGER: WE INVITED YOU TO SHARE SOME OF THOSE VALUABLE
    LESSONS YOU HAVE LEARNED RIGHT HERE THROUGH OUR
    "EVERYDAY ANSWERS" PROGRAM, AND WE GOT A LOT OF
    GREAT RESULTS.
    WE'RE SO GLAD THAT YOU'RE WATCHING AND LEARNING.
    GOLDIE SHARES, "I'VE LEARNED TO TRUST AND WAIT ON THE LORD.
    PRAYERS ARE ANSWERED IN GOD'S TIME AND I KNOW MY PRAYERS
    ARE HEARD."
    MICHELLE FROM NEW ZEALAND SAID, "HEARING JOYCE SHARE ABOUT HOW
    YOU OVERCAME CHILDHOOD ABUSE GIVES ME HOPE.
    FROM THE AGE OF FOUR, I WAS SEX TRAFFICKED BY MY STEPFATHER.
    I'M STILL STRUGGLING BUT HEALING."
    WOW, MICHELLE, WE'RE CONTINUING TO PRAY FOR THAT HEALING IN YOUR
    LIFE AS WELL.
    KATHY SHARES, "I HAVE FORGIVEN A LOT OF PEOPLE.
    I HAVE A QUALITY OF LIFE THAT IS VERY HARD TO DESCRIBE.
    MY DESIRE FOR MATERIAL THINGS HAS JUST VANISHED.
    I'M CONTENT WITH MY HUSBAND, THREE KIDS, HOUSE AND HEALTH.
    ALL PRAISE AND GLORY TO GOD."
    AND KERRY SAYS, "I HAVE LEARNED TO GET MY MIND OFF MY PROBLEMS
    AND TO LOOK FOR SOMEONE TO BLESS."
    WELL, THOSE ARE GREAT LESSONS, AND I'LL TELL YOU, WHEN SOME OF
    THESE THINGS REALLY GET DOWN INTO YOUR SYSTEM AND BECOME PART
    OF WHO YOU ARE, THEY ARE CERTAINLY LIFE-CHANGING.
    THEY ARE DRAMATIC.
    SO, BASED ON WHAT YOU'VE SEEN IN TODAY'S SHOW AND WHAT WE'VE BEEN
    TALKING ABOUT, LET'S JUST GET REAL AND HONEST.
    TELL US WHAT YOU THINK YOU HAVE TO DO TO LOVE THAT PERSON IN
    YOUR LIFE WHO IS DIFFICULT TO LOVE.
    THE UNLOVELIES, AS THEY WERE CALLED EARLIER TODAY.
    SHARE US YOUR GAME PLAN.
    THAT'S WHAT WE WANNA KNOW.
    DO IT ON SOCIAL MEDIA, FACEBOOK, TWITTER.
    USE #EA, AND JUST MAKE SURE THAT YOU CONNECT WITH US BECAUSE WE
    LOVE HEARING FROM YOU, AND IT ENCOURAGES EVERYONE ELSE ON
    SOCIAL MEDIA TOO.
    THE DELICATE ANSWER TO TODAY'S "HELP ME" QUESTION IS COMING UP,
    BUT FIRST, HERE'S A GLIMPSE AT WHAT'S HAPPENING NEXT TIME ON
    "EVERYDAY ANSWERS."
    JOYCE: YOU KNOW, EVERY DAY IS NOT A GREAT DAY.
    THERE'S GOOD DAYS AND THEN THERE'S NOT-SO-GOOD DAYS BUT
    EVEN THE NOT-SO-GOOD DAYS SOMETIMES ARE GOOD DAYS IN
    DISGUISE, WE JUST REALLY DON'T REALIZE IT.
    GINGER: TODAY'S "HELP ME" QUESTION DEALS WITH THE FEAR
    THAT COMES DUE TO THE TRAGIC MURDER OF A LOVED ONE.
    TAKE A LOOK.
    [MUSIC]
    GINGER: WELL, WE HAVE A FRIEND FOR YOU TODAY WITH
    A VIDEO QUESTION, ALL RIGHT?
    LET'S TAKE A LOOK.
    FEMALE: HI, JOYCE.
    I WAS JUST WONDERING, I LOST MY BROTHER TO MURDER A FEW YEARS
    AGO, AND NOW THAT I'M A MOMMY, I'M JUST WONDERING, HOW DO I GET
    OVER THE FEAR OF SOMETHING HAPPENING TO MY SON?
    JOYCE: WELL, FIRST OF ALL-- GINGER: THAT'S HEARTBREAKING.
    JOYCE: WELL, IT IS AND IT'S VERY EASY TO UNDERSTAND.
    BUT, "GOD HAS NOT GIVEN US A SPIRIT OF FEAR, BUT OF POWER,
    LOVE, AND A SOUND MIND."
    AND SO, IT'S CERTAINLY NOT GOD'S WILL FOR HER TO BE IN FEAR,
    BECAUSE FEAR HATH TORMENT.
    AND THE BIBLE SAYS IN 1 JOHN THAT WHEN WE KNOW THE PERFECT
    LOVE THAT GOD HAS FOR US, THEN WE ARE DELIVERED FROM FEAR.
    AND SO, REALLY, IN THE WORLD THAT WE LIVE IN TODAY, THERE'S
    SO MANY VIOLENT AND NEGATIVE THINGS THAT HAPPEN THAT I THINK
    ALL OF US HAVE TO MAKE THAT CHOICE THAT WE'RE NOT GONNA LIVE
    IN FEAR, BECAUSE WHAT KIND OF A LIFE IS IT IF YOU LIVE IN FEAR
    ALL THE TIME?
    AND SO, I THINK THAT SHE HAS TO APPLY THE SAME PRINCIPLES THAT
    WE ALL DO EVERY SINGLE DAY.
    THE BIBLE IN EPHESIANS 6 TALKS ABOUT COVERING EVERYTHING WITH
    PRAYER.
    AND SO, I PUT A PRAYER COVERING OVER MY CHILDREN, SOMETIMES ON
    A DAILY BASIS, CERTAINLY EVERY TIME IT COMES TO MY HEART, AND I
    JUST SIMPLY SAY, YOU KNOW, "I ASK YOU TO KEEP MY CHILDREN
    SAFE.
    KEEP THEM FROM ACCIDENTS, KEEP THEM FROM DISEASE."
    AND I PUT A PRAYER COVER OVER THEIR LIFE, TRUSTING THAT THEY
    WILL BE COVERED AND THE ENEMY WILL NOT BE ABLE TO GET TO THEM.
    WELL, THEN THE OBVIOUS QUESTION COMES.
    SOMEBODY MIGHT SAY, "WELL, I DID THAT, AND YOU KNOW, MY--THIS
    STILL HAPPENED TO MY CHILD."
    WELL THEN, I THINK IN THOSE KINDS OF SITUATIONS, WE'RE
    REALLY JUST MAKING A MISTAKE IF WE GET TOO DEEP INTO TRYING TO
    FIGURE OUT THE WHY BEHIND THINGS.
    AND SOME THINGS WE'RE NEVER GONNA UNDERSTAND UNTIL WE GET TO
    HEAVEN AND WE'RE LIVING WITH HIM, BUT INSTEAD OF TRYING TO
    FIGURE OUT WHY, THE BEST THING TO DO IS TRUST THAT GOD CAN TAKE
    ANY HORRIBLE, UNFAIR SITUATION AND WORK GOOD OUT OF IT.
    AND THAT'S ONE OF THE GREAT THINGS ABOUT HAVING A
    RELATIONSHIP WITH GOD IS WE CAN TRUST HIM TO DO THAT.
    BUT I WOULD JUST SAY TO HER, PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE DON'T LET
    THE ENEMY TAKE WHAT HE ALREADY DID TO HER BROTHER AND USE IT
    NOW TO TORMENT HER FOR THE REST OF HER LIFE.
    BECAUSE REALLY, IF WE DO THAT, THEN WE'RE JUST REALLY PLAYING
    RIGHT INTO THE ENEMY'S HANDS, BECAUSE THE PAIN JUST GOES ON,
    AND ON, AND ON.
    GINGER: AND SHE'LL LOSE THE JOY THAT GOD WANTS HER TO
    HAVE WITH THAT CHILD AND IN BEING A MOTHER.
    IT'LL BE REPLACED BY THE FEAR OF WHAT COULD HAPPEN INSTEAD.
    JOYCE: YEAH, THAT'S RIGHT.
    SO, JUST COVER YOUR CHILDREN WITH PRAYER AND TRUST THAT GOD
    WILL BE GOD IN THEIR LIVES.
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    THAT IT WILL MAKE A DIFFERENCE, NOT ONLY FOR YOU BUT FOR
    THE WHOLE WORLD.
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    SO, CONTACT US RIGHT NOW.
    AND REMEMBER, GOD LOVES US EVEN WHEN OUR ACTIONS AREN'T
    LOVEABLE, AND HE'S GIVEN US THE STRENGTH TO DO THE SAME THING
    FOR OTHER PEOPLE AROUND US.
    WE'LL SEE YOU NEXT TIME.
    [MUSIC]
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